WIVES YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO COMPLAIN OF LACK OF SEX IF YOU ARE FILTHY

 

WIVES YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO COMPLAIN OF LACK OF SEX IF YOU ARE FILTHY

With more men embracing counseling and speaking up, suddenly One is finding that hygiene is an issue many have to deal with. 

Ladies, let us clear one thing, tissue paper is not sanitary pad but let's play along for a minute as say it is a substitute, how are you disposing it? We need not stress that if the disposal of tissue paper is poor then that of actual sanitary pad will be worse.

In too many cases, the wives complain first about husbands who are no longer enthusiastic about their bodies and sex but further digging brings up the missing pieces. 

How can someone with smelly and discoloured pubic hair (from dirt and sweat) expect sexual activities?

Personal hygiene is primarily not a team work but the consequences of it will affect any team.

You cannot expect a person to head into a 'jungle' in clear disgust, a consequence of your lack of attention to care coupled with stubbornness. This is similar to armpits and even the hair on the head which you see many scratching, tapping or hitting.

The first step is to have regular baths, make this a habit even if you have to go out to fetch water.

Deforestation is paramount and this applies to the northern and southern vegetations.

Body odour; This can be cleared temporarily with your bath but as you will not have that every second, it becomes very important to have something to make your smell pleasant. 

Pluck beards and chest hairs. Yes, it is not your fault but for how long will it continue to be an issue? It is what it is.

Shave your legs if you are very hairy, except that's what's preferred by your partner.

Manicure and pedicure is quick to be mentioned by many when they haven't had any in years. Going about with half snapped toe nails with part peeled paint claiming to be making fashion endeavors, the heels of many cracked in neglect.

You have no right to complain about poor sex if you are not on the highest level of hygiene required for it.

Why can't he just tell me then?

What happened the last time he told you anything? To be honest, it is easier to avoid it with some women but yes, husbands need to be braver and speak up about this with very gentle and constructive approaches.

Can't he do it indirectly like buying and suggesting products? Yes, many have tried and that is where stubbornness is manifested. Still, you have to try as a husband.

The filth that many keep at home is shocking. Plates piled up in dirt for days, dirty underwear soaked in laziness for weeks, house uncleaned in months.

Hygiene is a big deal and will affect many things. It's worse if your spouse cannot even speak with you without you getting defensive or turning it into a fight. In the end, it's the marriage and home that suffers.

Pay attention.

WHY YOU HO

WHY YOU MUST HONOUR YOUR WIFE

She wakes up 4am gives you sex, You sleep back, she will move straight to the kitchen. She would join morning devotion by 5:30am, start preparing kids by 6:00am, serve everybody food by 7am, take the kids to school and move to her office by 7:30am, go for school runs by 2pm. She would come back to the house by 5-6pm, start washing of clothes and cooking dinner by 6pm. Serve dinner by 7:30pm, start home work for kids by 8-9pm, Shower and meet you the husband in the room by 9:30pm, discuss with you and catch fun so that you will be in the mood for sex. And you the husband with your big head will sleep like a king, She will get up to check on the children if they are sleeping well, off the light, Start praying for you and the family by 12am -1am.. Sleep a little and wake up again by 4am to start all over again.

It's you who bleed blood every month with severe pains and crams. Even in those pains, you still have to put things together for a normal day. The cooking, washing, etc. It's you who carry another human inside you for 9months. The inconvenience, the discomfort, the sacrifice, and carefulness. You sacrifice what makes you happy just to keep another life healthy. When it's time to deliver, your life is on the line. It's a 50/50 chance for you. You may live and you may die. But being the life-giver you are, you will choose the life of a new stranger over yours. Even the process is not favorable to you. Either the pains of childbirth or surgery. After it all, you still carry yourself up and continue life activities with bandage and pains. But what is miraculous about this all is the smile you put on your face while facing all this. 

May God bless every WOMAN out there.🙏🙏

ONDO BLACK SOUP

 ONDO BLACK SOUP

Popularly called Marugbo Soup by the Ikales and Ilajes of Ondo  State; 

Called Gbanonnon by Ondos (the Ekimoguns) of Ondo State; 

Also known as Obeta Dudu by the Idanres (the Makanres) of Ondo State.

This soup is very well loved for its therapeutic and cleansing effect on the digestive system. 

The name "Gbanonnon" means "the stew that clears the bowels" so it also has a laxative effect. Certain herbs are added to Marugbo leaves to give Gbanonnon Soup its special flavour as well as its unique nutritional and medicinal qualities.

Furthermore, It is very good soup for post partum women soon after child birth.

THE LEAVES/HERBS  USED INCLUDE: 

1. MARUGBO LEAVES : Botanically belonging to the family of Clerodendium Volubile, it is called

'Marugbo' or 'Eweta' by the Ikales and Ilajes of Ondo State, 'Meroluku' by the Idanres of Ondo State, 'Eweluku' by the Ondos (the Ekimoguns) of Ondo State, 'Obenetete' by the Urhobos of Delta State and  'Beletientien' by the Itshekiris of Delta State. 

2. PEPPER FRUIT LEAVES - It is called  'Ewe Igbee' by the Ondos,  'Dennetta Tripetala Mmimmi' by the Igbos, 'Ewe Ata Igberi' by the Yorubas, 'Imako' by Urhobos, and 'Ako' by the Efik and Ibibio.

3. ALLIGATOR PEPPER LEAVES - Known as 'Ewe Itaaye' or 'Ewe Ataare' by the Yorubas.

4. BLACK PEPPER LEAVES - Known as  'Ewe Ighere', the botanical name is Pipe nigrum. It is called 'Uziza' by Ibos, and 'Ewe ata Iyere' by the Yorubas.

5. BASIL - Known as 'Efinrin' by the Yorubas, 'Nnchanwu' by Igbos, and 'Daidoya' by Hausas.

6. EWE OFOOFO

7. EWE AILU

8. EWE OLUKOOFO

9. MORINGA LEAVES (Optional)

 

BASIC INGREDIENTS.

Fresh pepper, Bell pepper, Onion, Fresh meat, Dried Smoked Fish, Era gii/Iru (Locust Beans, Palm oil (very little), Salt to taste.

    

HEALTH BENEFITS OF THE HERBS USED.

1.    MARUGBO LEAVES

¨      It gives the aroma and taste of the soup and can be added in fresh or dried.

¨      It contains very high amount of Zinc and Iron.

¨      It is known for stimulating lost appetite and replenishing vitality for mothers who just put to bed.

¨      It is good for high antioxidant activity which reduces oxidative stress.

¨      It is effective for diseases prevention and management.

¨      It addresses many health issues such as diabetes and hypertension.

¨      It retards or prevents breast cancers. 

 

2.      EWE IGBEE (pepper fruit leaves)

v  It also gives a good aroma.

v  It is anti-inflammatory

v  Good for treatment and prevents of gastrointestinal diseases e.g. stomach upset, diarrhea, vomiting and worm infestation.

v  Anti-ulcer

v  It minimizes cancer risk

v  It fight against microbes

 

3.    EWE ITAYE (alligator pepper leaves)

Ø  It stimulates sexual desires.

Ø  It is used to increase the production of breast milk

Ø  Used for treatment of malaria

Ø  It improves digestion

Ø  It is an antioxidant

Ø  It prevents infection

Ø  It is used for treatment of gastrointestinal disorder. e.g. Stomach ulcers, worm, diarrhea and stomach pain.

 

4.  EWE IGHERE(Black pepper Leaves) Uziza

§  It is good for intestinal diseases e.g. dysentery, diarrhea.

§  Good for cough and bronchitis

§  For rheumatism

§  For infertility in woman and low sperm count in men.

§  Treatment  of irritating bowels disorders, enteritis and gastritis

§  For anti-cancer, anti-viral and anti-tumor, anti-allergic anti-oxidant and anti-inflammatory ability.

 EWE EFINRIN (Scent leaves)

v  It aids quick digestion

v  For lowering of blood sugar level.

v  It prevents cancer.

v  It reduces cholesterol

v  It relieves heart burn

v  It relieves menstrual pains

v  Eliminates and repairs damage caused by smoking.

v  It prevents diabetes

v  Rich in vitamin A

v  It contains calcium that can help increase bone density and prevent diseases of the bone

v  Health benefit for male and female sexual organs

v  It prevents premature ejaculation.

MORINGA LEAVES (miracle tree)

Is known as an excellent source of nutrition and a natural energy booster. This energy is not based on sugar so it is sustained

v  It lowers blood pressure

v  It aids sleep

v  It provides multi-vitamins e.g. vitamin C and vitamin A.

v  Solution to diabetes.

v  Anti-oxidant.

v  Anti-inflammatory.

 

CASSAVA LEAVES (cooked)

v  It contains protein, calcium, iron and fats.    

v  It contains a good amount of fiber that boost immunity and fiber alleviates constipation

Plants have remained an integral source of food and nutrients for both human and animals. We simply cannot survive without them.

     

One more thing about Obeta Dudu/ Marugbo/ Gbanonnon soup is that very little palm oil is used, making it quite interesting and ideal if you are on a diet and have to reduce calories and fat but still want to eat. 

So prepare your pounded yam, Eba, Starch, Amala, Fufu, Pupuru, Rice or even Eko; think of any food, even bread and settle down to dig in. ENJOY.

Credit: Ilutitun Gist

How Man In Uniform Killed Owner Of The Vehicle Who Agreed To Give Him A Lift

 This man on military uniform met a guy at Eleme Junction, heading to Akwa Ibom State, Ikot Abasi to be precise and begged for a lift, the innocent car owner(driver) gave him a lift, but unknowingly, he had other motives. His motives was to kill the owner of the car along the way and snatch the car. He actually succeeded in his plans of killing an innocent helper, but never knew the car had a tracker. 

He was tracked and arrested.

IMAGINE!! My 70 Year Old Mother Is Insisting We Find Her A Husband

 My mother is 70 and she insists we find a husband for her-Worried daughter.

Jane and her sisters are worried about their mother’s request.

According to them their mother just relocated from England where she has spent over 45 years.

They claim their mum wants a husband and they fear at her age she can’t find one in Nigeria.

Hear their worries as sent to relationship expert ,Osigwe Omo-Ikirodah anchor of  relationship make or mar.

Hello, Osigwe my name is Jane and I am 40 years and the last among three girls my mum gave birth to.

Last year December my mother relocated back to Nigeria from the UK where she has spent over 45 years.

She says she wants to be in Nigeria in her dying years.

My mum is very comfortable as she was a practising nurse in the better part of her forty years in the United Kingdom, highly intelligent and knowledgeable.

Right now my mum has insisted we get her a husband in Nigeria and preferably a younger man in his forties.

At first, we felt it was a joke but she has been hammering on it and now she is becoming agitated

How  can our mum be looking for a husband in Nigeria that is younger than her last child?

Please, how do we handle this so she does not fall prey to a Gold digger?

We have met and decided she does not need a husband at her age.

So how do we handle it so she does not get depressed?

We have heard Jane’s dilemma please how can we be of assistance to her?

Interest Facts About Janet Jackson's Love Life

Once upon a time, Janet Jackson of the fabulous musical Jackson clan eloped with James DeBarge, from another famous singing family, the DeBarges.

In the 80s, the DeBarge group was on the rise, even as the Jackson 5 faltered due to Michael Jackson's "defection," and James and Janet's marriage was big news.

James, then 21, was handsome, charming, and dashing. The seventh of the nine DeBarge siblings, he swept the  18-year-old Janet off her feet.

Their elopement was a scandal and a seven-day wonder, especially since Joseph Jackson, the family's 'Dadager,' was vehemently opposed to the union.

But James had another problem. The "pretty boy" of R&B was also a cocaine addict. A little over a year after their marriage, Joe Jackson had the marriage annulled. The love was over and Janet and James moved on with their lives.

In 1991 she and sometime collaborator Rene Elizondo Jr hooked up and wed in secret, hoping to keep their love out of the spotlight. "People in this industry don't get a fair chance with some things, and especially marriage," she says. "I wanted to have as normal a marriage as possible, and we both felt the best way to do that was to keep it quiet," she said at the time. The two did keep it quiet, until Rene filed for divorce in 2000.

James Debarge revealed that when his marriage to Janet was annulled she was pregnant, and had given birth to their child in secret. Bunny DeBarge, James's sister declared that she had seen Janet pregnant and stated: “When the marriage was annulled (...) Janet was pregnant and James believed that as well.”

James' bombastic revelation came at a particularly sensitive time, as Janet was expecting her first child at 50, and gave birth to her son Eissa Al Mana in January 2017.

In the aftermath of the revelation, several women came forward, claiming to be the long lost DeBarge-Jackson baby, and claiming a slice of fame and Janet's not-inconsiderable fortune, modestly calculated to be worth close to $190 million in 2020.

A Philadelphia woman named Tiffany Whyte approached James' mother Etterlene DeBarge and presented herself as her granddaughter. The two women had a DNA test done, which proved unequivocally that Tiffany really is her grandchild. She declared:

“Now it’s time for me to tell my truth. Now that I got the DNA from my grandmother (...) it is for sure that they are my parents"(Janet Jackson and James Debarge) 

Tiffany, who grew up in the foster care system is convinced that Janet is her mother, and said with some bitterness: “She has been denying me for many years. I’ve waited 31 years. I’ve been kept a secret for a very long time and I want people to know the truth.”

In 2001 Janet released the wildly popular album All For You and found herself both successful and unattached. "All this is really new for me," she said of being on the singles scene. "I've never dated. In my family, we grew up Jehovah's Witnesses, so you're not supposed to date until you're thinking of marriage. I got married when I was 18, and then I got an annulment, and then Rene came into my life. So here I am and I know nothing about the whole dating thing..."

The beautiful singer did not remain single for long. A year later Janet began seeing the man she refers to as her "soulmate", hip-hop producer Jermaine Dupri. "I always wanted to find love," she said. "Now, that I found love, I'm in a different space now. Jermaine is drama-free."